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Change the message and focus on what we CAN do and how well we do it
Monday, Oct 21, 2013 6:31 am
Change the message and focus on what we CAN do and how well we do it
I was asked to talk on the Chrissy B show on Sky TV about confidence at work.  So many of us regale ourselves with our inner self talk. We tell ourselves that we are, for example, no good at things, not as able as others, not very clever, or not very pretty; the list is endless.  What do you think this does for us?  Well the truth is not not a lot! 

Surprisingly we listen to ourselves.  Every time we say one of these negative messages we send messages to our brain which then produces anxiety chemicals - cortisol, which reduces our energy and makes us feel bad.

If we feel bad we do bad!

If however we change the message and we focus on what we CAN do and how well we do it, we send different chemicals to our brain and we feel good and produce more seratonin, which does just that. 

It's easy at work at times to feel 'useless' or not good at our jobs.  You know taking that message on-board will only cause you to do less well.  The important thing to do when you are feeling bad is to say STOP to yourself. Identify if there is anything you can do.  For example if your computer skills aren't very good you could go on a course.  Also check out if the feelings are based on 'reality' or 'made up' so to speak, often they are not based on facts and therefore are just make believe.  Change the thoughts in your head to 'I can' rather than 'I can't.  You'll be surprised what a difference it makes.

If you are feeling low and lacking in self confidence for any reason, pick up the phone and have a chat with me.  Often we get stuck in our own thoughts and patterns and need to work alongside another to help us to shift those feelings and thoughts.  It's easily done.  This is the moment when you can take charge and make a difference to your future. 

Give me a call or drop me a line.
www.kerensmedley.com
www.experience-matters.org.uk

 

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